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You’re in love, things are going great, and you’ve decided to move in together (that’s a huge milestone, congrats girl)!
You may be thinking, “OMG, I’m going to lose my independence” (you can still be independent) or “OMG, this is great! It’ll be like a preview to being married” (whether you get married or not, it will be!).
While that all may be true, it’s also going to be a learning experience! You’re going to be learning about the deep inner part of what makes your person your person. What makes them tick and why they do the things they do.
Hopefully, after the mystery of each other becomes no mystery at all and after dealing with the good, the bad, and the ugly, you’ll both still really like each other (hey, this is another level of getting to know each other lol).
Here’s my truest and realest facts about what actually happens when you move in with your significant other (buckle up, sis):
- Who’s Paying for What?
This should primarily be done prior to actually moving in together just so everyone’s on the same page. For example, is it going to be a 50/50 split for bills or is 1 person paying rent and utilities and the other just paying for groceries?
Make sure both you and your partner know what is expected and what each person’s role should be as providers in your home!
- What’s Mine is Yours
Literally everything you own will become shared property (hence what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is yours).
This is not necessarily a bad thing especially when you realize you’ve run out of deodorant and need to use your man’s for the day (hey it happens, as long you’re smelling fresh, sis!).
From now on just think of everything as “ours” 🙂 .
- Keep, Donate, Trash
So, you both have a bunch of items that you want to utilize in your home or keep for sentimental reasons. This can work in theory, but in real life this can quickly get out of hand!
Both of you should take a seat and bunker down on what you need in the house, what is an absolute keep, and what you can do without (trust me, that easy bake oven from your childhood can stay in your parents’ attic a little longer).
Who knows? This could be the perfect opportunity to get rid of the old and start anew with stuff you both picked!
Choosing new furniture together really made our space feel more cohesive and it’s truly “our home” with our unique styles.
- Where’s My Leftovers?
Plain and simple, you better eat your leftovers because after a day or so it becomes free dibs!
This may be helpful if you really don’t want any parts of yesterday’s meal but it can get tricky when you come home and the food you’ve been thinking of all day has magically disappeared (ha the mystery remains).
Speak up and make sure your partner knows you want that sesame chicken later or you can just say goodbye now because it definitely won’t be there, girlfriend!
- Do I Hear an Echoooo?
There’s just no going around this. You start to sound alike!
Not only that, you start to finish each other’s thoughts and even start cracking the same jokes! You’re a walking-talking replica of EACH OTHER (it feels both weird and comforting when you look at them and knowww you know what they’re thinking)!
People will either be annoyed by it or find it cute but regardless it’s your new norm now so get used to your partner saying what you want to say before you say it (*shrugs*).
- Kick the Cleaning Up a Notch
Your partner isn’t your mom so share the cleaning and clean after yourself (it comes with the move, girl).
Regardless of who dirties dishes or who washes clothes, someone has to clean the dish and fold the clothes. It’s a partnership and for a partnership to work, each person has to do their part!
- Learning Sleeping Habits (And Coping With It)
This may be the most important piece. If you have never slept over each other’s places before moving in then you have truly done yourself a disservice, honey. It’s like a test drive for if you need ear plugs to sleep at night or not!
Figure out if they’re a night owl, a snorer, a light sleeper, etc. and make sure you can cope. If you’re already aware of your loud partner then be sure to invest in some necessary sleep-aid tools. You both need your beauty rest!
- 24/7 Bestie Boo-Boo
You have a live-in friend that you can talk to about anything and can talk all the time (for better or for worse lol)! You know that whenever you need a shoulder to lean on or an uplifting voice, you HAVE ONE!
They’ll notice your mood changes more often and will want to talk more about your feelings and your needs. Everyday you wake up and when you fall asleep, it’s going to be your best friend waiting to do life with you.
It really doesn’t get any better than that!
- Let It All Hang Out
Beware that once you move in together, there will be plenty of burps, farts, and bad hair days. Also, allergy attacks (talking from personally dating someone who should be in a bubble indefinitely).
Say goodbye to the days of being ignorant to their OCD habits (or messy if that’s their style). And say hello to the freedom (or embarrassment) of sharing all of yourself with your significant other.
Either hide you truly are or keep being yourself because the one for you will love all of your quirks anyway!
- Discover What Really Pisses Them Off
Now you’re getting to the nitty gritty, girl!
It’s different when you don’t live together and can hide your frustrations and the craziest parts of you when do things to piss you off. But once you live together you can’t hide anything, whether you want to or not.
Dirty clothes on the floor and not putting your shoes in its “spot” are some things that may get under each other’s skin. You had different ways of living prior to living together so it takes some getting used to and time, sis.
Try not to get too peeved at each other’s annoying habits, work together for a compromise! We all have our “thing” and no one is perfect!
- Weird Habits Come Out to Play
I personally shake my foot, either to calm me or out of habit (both) but we all do something weird.
Some people have a habit of biting their nails, biting their lip, or making weird noises in their sleep. The point is…everyone has weird habits and whether you know your partner’s weird habit or not (and whether they know yours), you will definitely find out!
So go ahead, air dry after your shower if that’s your thing (no judgment here, sis).
- Date Nights
Date nights are also so much easier now!
You can easily prepare a fabulous meal at home, light some candles, and throw some rose petals around. Or you can plan a beautiful date out at one of the fanciest restaurants, the opportunities are infinite!
You can dress up or play it cool, depending how you both feel. Personally, I like to be more casual but it’s always nice to get dolled up here and there!
Whatever you do, DON’T EVER STOP GOING ON DATES!! It can be easy to forget to plan a romantic evening when you live with your love but that doesn’t mean the wooing has to end.
The best couples are the ones who keep wooing each other and keep being romantic (period)!
- Alone Time? Sorry, Don’t Know Her
When you have a random roommate you can easily ignore them and block them out when you need your space. You could go for a walk or go to the store and they would absolutely not give a f***.
Now you’re living with the love of your life and honestly the most alone time you’ll have is at work and on your drive home. You have your best friend living with you so why wouldn’t you want to be with them all the time?
Just remember to try to continue to focus on your hobbies and the things you enjoy outside of each other. Use that as your “me time”.
Honestly, after you’ve had your fun alone, you’ll want to hang with your person and they’ll want to hang out with you :).
Let me be clear (not to sound serious), when you move in, sex can be 1 of 2 things. Either you’re having sex WAYYYY more often or you have it a little less frequently.
Two very different sides of the spectrum but be prepared that some changes may happen. You’re getting to know each other in a joint environment so try to stay on the same page. Remember, you’re both HUMAN!
Take the time to talk about your needs and sexual desires with your partner. If you feel like things just aren’t how they used to be or if you just need something a little different then let them know!
Hey, you moved in together for a reason, right? You can always find a way to spice things up so everyone’s happy (trying new things with each other makes the magic, girl)!
- Grow Together
Essentially, now that you’re living as one, you’re both working on achieving personal goals as well as accomplishing milestones together!
You should be growing together NOT growing apart. Both of you will start learning new things (including learning new things about each other) and how to take care of your home without your parents’ guidance.
Moving in together is a journey so take the highs with the lows and ENJOY the experience. Although, this is a serious step to make in both of your lives, keep having fun!
Create new memories in a shared environment and who knows…if things work out, maybe there will be some wedding bells coming your way!!
What’s something you had to get used to after moving in with your significant other?